When we are in our teens we are in such a hurry to be older, whether it is peer pressure and/or a need to develop a sense of self. We use fake ids to get into bars/nightclubs, we drink alcohol, have sex, dress provocatively, learn to drive as soon as we are legally allowed to and we shun the very life that we lived up to that point. It is no longer cool to play last card with your brother, or to jump on trampolines, or stay at home watching tele on a Friday night. We then go through our twenties and muddle through life experiences being ‘grown ups’ and slowly this ‘living’ thing starts to make sense. If we are lucky in our thirties we see our goals being accomplished and/or we have a greater understanding of who we are OR maybe we don’t overthink life so much and just continue to drift into what the next situation brings – whatever rocks your boat, we are all on different journeys as long as we reach our bliss doesn’t really matter how we get there.
Something else happens in your thirties though, something we can all relate to in some way: we begin to wish we were younger. On the eve of turning forty I have been thinking about my journey, feeling nostalgic and emotional, at times wondering if I would have done anything different if I had a chance for a do over… ANSWER: No way, I love where I am right now and it would not have been possible if I hadn’t been on this very ride I’m on BUT I do have some advice for the younger me…
…Right now you are in such a hurry to finish studying and leave New Zealand, because you feel like you are in the arse end of the world and nothing ever happens here but to really appreciate new experiences you need to APPRECIATE and be grateful for where you come from and you will… eventually. You will even support the All Blacks, be excited for the burgeoning film industry there, be grateful that you grew up near water/beaches and nature and be proud to tell people that you come from little ol’ New Zealand. You will never love your accent though!
You won’t understand this till you are older and had some distance but you have had a privileged upbringing surrounded by family and friends who adore you. That is precious, you are nothing without these people. BE GRATEFUL AND NURTURE RELATIONSHIPS you care about as much as you can NOW especially that with your grandma because your heart will ache for her for the rest of your life once she is gone.
Grow your hair, the Dolores O’Riorden (The Cranberries)/Natalie Imbruglia look is fine but you are so much prettier with longer hair – the boys think so too ;-).
Do not bury your head in the sand when it comes to your health. Do not ignore medical advice or your brother, get medical insurance the first time he tells you to. You never know when you will need it and you will need it.
Failing is winning. Set backs are just set ups for the future accomplishments. Every experience, every opportunity, every love – trust your gut and embrace it all for it will be the making of you. Learn to LIVE IN THE MOMENT from this very second so you are present for the memories.
Learn to love your birthday, people are well-intentioned and they only want to make the day you entered the world special for you so bask in their love, and say thank you. So simple right? I promise if you do this you will notice a change in thinking in a good way.
One more thing: It make be many many years, take you around the world and who knows how much money but the Madonna thing (some call it an obsession) will come to an end. Yeah it really does, bet that hurts a little to hear but do you really need to see her more than once or twice? Just think what else you could be doing with your energy and moola.
Above all don’t fret, the universe always has your back and you – you turn out alright.