I have been told that I set the bar high in what I expect in behaviour from others and I acknowledge this is true and that it at times it can lead to disappointment; which then leads to a whole range of other not very nice emotions…Still disappointments are a part of life which none of us can hide away from so I’ve compiled a list of ways to get over them:
Write about it. Acknowledge your personal feelings about the situation/circumstance. Writing is a cathartic process for me hence my blog. When we are disappointed, the emotional side of our brain takes over and we can’t always see reason straight away. It is not healthy to bottle it up so I find writing (or venting) helps to get all the emotions out, sometimes I find creating a mind map helps to organise my thoughts.
Get some perspective. Disappointment is subjective. We are all unique human beings and we think in our unique ways. Having expectations can equal disappointment it is a simple fact of life. Sometimes you have to ask yourself is the expectation realistic or flexible enough? If you think it is then maybe look at it from another point of view – how would a stranger looking in see it. Another way to get perspective is to see the big picture and be thankful for all that is going right in your life…the disappointment becomes minuscule then and not worth the upset.
It isn’t always personal. Sometimes things are beyond one’s control. Murphy’s law – what can go wrong will go wrong and if you know this then maybe plan for it in advance thus preempting any disappointment.
Learn from this experience and try to turn the disappointment into something positive for example; someone cancelled plans at the last minute well that now gives you time to catch up on Downton Abbey. There is always a silver lining, you just have to look for it.
Accept that you will continue to be disappointed, this is a part of what being human means.